Its ok to do nothing sometimes…

One of the things about travelling full time that took me a while to get used to was the fact that the van is my home. For several weeks after we set off, I felt like I was on holiday and I was aware of a pressure (from myself?) to visit everything, go to all the ‘must see’ places and not miss out on anything. What this meant in practice was that we raced around Europe, trying to fit in Budapest, Prague, Wurzburg, Provence, Garda and Venice (we never did make it to Venice) and after a few months we ended up completely exhausted.

A trip like this needs some 'downtime'.

25,000 km and 12 countries….

Added to this rushing around, whenever we were somewhere new I thought I ought to be out there, sightseeing or exploring. I felt guilty if I didn’t want to go out. Seeing the sights every day is all very well on a two-week holiday, but when it’s your life, for a year, then rather than being stimulating it can be draining. We all need some time to step back and recharge, to absorb what we’ve seen and experienced (admittedly some people, myself included, need more of this than others).

Imagine if every day at home, you felt you had to go out exploring. There would be no chill out days, no vegging on the sofa under a duvet, no relaxing for hours with a good book, no time even to clean the loo. Sometimes we all need a day or two just being ‘at home’ and that’s no different when you live in a van and travel.

Right now, Chris and the kids have gone to explore the sand dunes, I felt like I ‘should’ go too, but I’m tired and just needed to be ‘at home’. So here I am, in the van, in the desert and I’m still in my PJs, mucking about on Facebook….and that’s okay, I’m just being at home. It’s okay to do nothing. Just because you are in a new place doesn’t mean you have to be ‘in’ it all the time. Having the freedom to travel should mean just that – freedom. If you want to go out and explore then go out and explore, if you want to chill out and do nothing, then chill out. If you feel you ‘must do this, must see that’ then it becomes a duty, and that’s not freedom at all.

 

This is me right now…

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  1. Steve Button 1 year ago

    Saw your van in Bury St. Edmunds just before you set off. We did a smaller trip around europe in a Winnebago years ago, and same thing. Some days it’s just nice to soak up some sun, or to try to learn cartwheels on the beach.

    1. Chris 1 year ago

      Wow! That must be almost a year ago now! We’ve learn a lot since then – I hope. 😉 Really nice to hear that its not just us that feels this way sometimes.

  2. Pat Orr 1 year ago

    Spot on!

  3. Sue Erskine 1 year ago

    Not just OK but absolutely essential. I slowly realised the benefits of simply doing very little through being laid low with a cold.. ‘what is this life, if full of care, we cannot stop and stand and stare’…your feet look very relaxed Lottie.

  4. Going Nomad 1 year ago

    That is exacly what we have been doing for the past couple of weeks around the Costa del Sol. Most motorhomers avoid here, and I can understand why. There are not a lot of services set up for us. They have millions of other visitors and don’t need us. But we used to live here, so we have gritted it out for the last couple of weeks as a nostalgic visit, meting friends going to old restaurant haunts and generally chilling out. Tomorrow we are off for a week around the white villages of Andalusia. Who’s in any rush? 🙂

    1. Lottie 1 year ago

      Exactly. Slow travel is the way to go!

  5. thenomaddingcrowd 1 year ago

    Hi. I started following your blog recently as we are another road schooling, euro travelling family from the U.K. It has whetted our appetite for Morocco! My own blog has got no further than having a title so far but I’m hoping to change that soon. I loved this post as it’s exactly what we’ve been talking about recently – that maybe we need to see and do less. For one thing I may finally start my blog!

    1. Lottie 1 year ago

      So glad you enjoyed it 🙂 Yes it takes quite a bit of time to keep the blog updated – much more time than we imagined ..which is why our Facebook page is much more current! Really looking forward to reading about your journey – enjoy your travels. (Love the blog name btw)